I believe there are 3 types of people in life. Pullers, Campers, and Climbers.
A puller is someone who is generally negative, has closed minded views of the world and can’t stand for anyone to be above them. Whether you are their family member, friend or acquaintance, they will do anything to pull you back down to their level if they see you rising above them. This is often unconscious behaviour, and they don’t even realise they’re doing it, but the behaviour is harmful and consistent.
A camper is someone who is quite happy to camp out in their own little world. They’re happy and content with where they are in life. They go about life happily, not really phased by what anyone else is doing. They rarely have goals and if they do, they’re small and follow the status quo. They’d be happy to chill out in that camp site forever, smiling and laughing, enjoying the mediocrity of life.
There are two types of campers; the type that are truly happy and have no desire to change ones life because they have already found what they believe to be happiness, and the ones who are truly unhappy but have no motivation or drive to change their situation, so they sit stagnant and in fear for the majority of their lives.
A climber is someone who is always looking for the next mountain to climb. They have massive goals, and never ever seem to give up. If the plan fails, they make a new one. A climber is someone who builds others up rather than pulling them down. They get just as much joy out of seeing others succeed as they do from their own success. A climber will never stop climbing, it’s just what they do, and when they reach the top of the mountain, they’ll pull their tribe up with them.
Now of course there are climbers out there who really only care about their own success, but from my experience most climbers actually want to see others happy and succeeding too. What’s the point in being at the top of the mountain if you’re all by yourself?
You more than likely are identifying with one of these right now, and you’re either happy or displeased about what you read. Remember it is always a choice how we choose to live our lives, what we choose to create and even how we choose to feel. It’s not easy, but it IS a choice, and you have the power to change your reality at any given second.
My question to you is, who are the pullers in your life? Who are the campers? And who are the climbers?
Why is that we as human beings often allow those who create nothing but pain and hurt to remain in our lives? Why do we allow space for that? We are all guilty of this, and we need to realise that no amount of time, love or memories make how they treat us okay. Whether they are family, a friend, a partner or an acquaintance, this behaviour and emotional impact on your life is not okay and you have every right to walk away, even if you love that person.
Motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Think about who these 5 people are, and then relate that back to your life and the way it is looking for you right now. If you surround yourself with climbers who lift you up and encourage you to be your best, you’re probably flying sky high. If you surround yourself with pullers, I can almost guarantee you feel depressed, lost and maybe even are becoming a puller yourself if you aren’t already. If you surround yourself with campers, you’re likely happy with where you’re at, content in your life with no huge plans for the future.
Research has shown that we’re greatly affected by our environments. When it comes to relationships, we are greatly influenced by those closest to us, and of course, this affects our way of thinking, our self-esteem, and our decisions. While it’s ideal to surround ourselves with those who only lift us higher, we are always going to have our critics, and sometimes this can be a good thing. The more successful you become, the more criticism you’ll face. Glenn Llopis once wrote an article about the 6 types of people who build your mental toughness, including doubters, critics, and the envious. Without them, we’d never sharpen our skills or develop tough skin.
Choose the people you spend your time with wisely. Recognise the pullers in your life and always protect your light. Pullers are light dimmers, and the world needs your light.
As Marianne Williamson said; “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Choose to Fly.
– Ashleigh Lyn.
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